"So go out and live real good and I promise you’ll get beat up real bad. But, in a little while after you’re dead, you’ll be rotted away anyway. It’s not gonna matter if you have a few scars. It will matter if you didn’t live."
#live your life
#haters gonna hate
Javier Riera‘s photographic light projections make a round treetop look like a mazed cube. Riera is currently exploring the harmonious relationship between geometry and landscape, using geometry to change our perception of the scenery and objects we thought we knew so well.
"'People have forgotten this truth', the fox said. 'But you musn't forget it. You become responsible forever for what you've tamed. You're responsible for your rose.'"
Borderline Personality Disorder and Anticipatory Anxiety →
#adult children of
A borderline parent can sabotage your plan to fly away.
Why does a Borderline mother damage her children? Masterson said Borderline moms don’t always damage all their children. But, he said, a Borderline mother requires—he used that word specifically—at least one Borderline child. Why? She cannot tolerate feelings of abandonment. She must, no matter what it does to the child, cripple at least one child so that the child will never, even as an adult, be able to leave her. This means destroying at least one child’s ability to function as an independent person.
Up until the child exhibited independence, the mother-child relationship was perfect for the Borderline mother. But once the child shows any—notice that word, any—signs of independence (“… I’ll be on my way”) the Borderline mother must nip that independence in the bud. When the child comes to her seeking her after rejecting her by showing signs of independence, the mother rejects the child. She treats the child as, “First you say you don’t need me; now you say you do; to hell with you.” Masterson called this “an eye for an eye” response the “talonic response.” He said it is the most ingrained response by any Borderline, and when a Borderline is in treatment, it is the last of the pathology to go away. It is retaliation in kind; if you reject me, I will reject you. Even though what the child is doing is natural and healthy growth, the Borderline mother sees natural and healthy growth as rejection, and responds in kind. Thus, leaving the child - who is at this point dependent upon the mother - with no choice but to give up natural and healthy growth. And, since part of natural and healthy growth involves what is called “separation and individuation” (separating ones identity from the mother and becoming and individual), development stops…